I started a diet to get in control. Then I lost control and started bingeing. Then I’d try to regain control by restricting food again.
This lifestyle of control is the most out of control thing I have experienced.
I couldn’t control the people around me, I couldn’t control the depression, the anxiety or the things going on in the world around me. This scared me, so I tried to control my food.
And I lost even more control.
But I eventually learned something I could control. My thoughts. This gave me the power to decide how I wanted to experience my life.
Here are some lessons from this process:
1. Be willing to feel all emotions
No feeling can hurt you. Being scared of feeling anxiety just makes the anxiety worse. But I’ve never felt one emotion forever, it always comes and goes. Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable gives you the power to feel anything.
2. Notice emotions and the thoughts causing them
Our emotions are great guide post that can lead us to understand our minds so much clearer. What are you feeling at this moment? Why?
3. Decide What You Want Your Life to Look Like
If you don’t know what the end result will look like, you won’t be able to get there. I decided what I wanted to think about myself, food, other people and my goals.
4. Use Your Thoughts and Feelings as a Guide
You will have thoughts and emotions that won’t lead you to the life you want. It is your job to notice them. Sometimes the garden needs weeding. Take out the “I’m not good enough”, “I will never recover” and anything else that doesn’t belong.
Using your mind as a tool is a skill that takes practice. Be patient with yourself as you notice the thoughts and emotions you want to change.
My passion is teaching other women who battle with food on a daily basis to learn how to harness the power of their minds.
Your thoughts are the most powerful thing you have, so learn to use them. Schedule a mini session with me if you need help with this. It’s free.